The Hubby and I went through the exact same conversation today as we did yesterday. This time, however, I didn't exactly lie but I told him I got more done than usual. What I didn't mention was that I was working on some of my own stuff (that I don't get paid for ---- like this blog).
Meanwhile, right after he left I read a blog post entitled Finish The Game over at 300 Pounds Down and it really struck a nerve with me. The jest of the post was that life happens. Things happen. Sh*t happens. Life finds ways to interfere with your plans, your hopes, your dreams. BUT....at some point....you have to quit letting it be the reason that everything falls off the tracks. (The blog owner says it a lot more eloquently than I do!)
So, today I am going to try to remember that. Life does indeed happen.
It is MY choice as to whether I roll with it or whether I let the big and little things get to me. It would be so easy to have another day like Monday and Tuesday where his comments basically shut me down. He KNOWS what he is doing....I've told him. I've explained it to him. He continues to do it and pouts when you ask him not to.
The bottom line though is that if I know he is going to pull this crap every day I just need to tell him what he thinks he wants to hear, get him out the door, and get the stuff done. I won't say that his little comments don't still linger in my mind, but I'm getting over it. I have to. As I already said...life happens...and it always will. It is how I continue to act that determines how good or bad it is actually going to go.
Very good reminder for all of us! I'm trying to constantly remember that.......and remember that stuff happens, it's my response to that stuff that defines who I am and how it affects me!
ReplyDeleteIt's hard to deal with unpleasant comments. Good for you deciding to let them roll off.
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Thanks for the comments! Still fighting the same battle with The Hubby today, but I'm going to shut him down (his asking me about my work anyway) over the weekend so I can THINK! :-/
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