A long time ago, a friend and I started using "Towanda" as kind of a joke to remind us to take charge of our lives. Whenever things weren't going good for one or the other of us, we would say "Towanda" to remind the other one that she would get through it.
Last week, I actually thought about us saying this and for a couple of days I used "Towanda" as my cover photo on Facebook. Today, I thought about it again as a reminder that I need to take back my personal power.
The Hubby didn't ask about my plans for the day or talk about my work (or lack thereof), but he tried to sneak a financial talk in as he was heading out the door this morning by commenting what bills are due this week.
I realize this is passive-agressive at its best. He is a master and lord of passive-agressive. Unfortunately, I engaged a bit in the discussion (which I shouldn't have), but as soon as I realized what he was doing I shut it down by telling him that until we had other information in hand (he has a real estate closing - but doesn't know when) that we really couldn't do anything but pay the bills we can with what we have.
It wasn't a 100% win for me in regaining my power --- but I'll take it.
Towanda!
Towanda! Love it! And honestly..I think soo many of us lose control of our lives and ourselves that this post is perfect...because we need to stand up for ourselves and take control! GOOD post!
ReplyDeleteThank you! It's hard and I am going to have to remind myself of this every single day until it becomes habit! Baby steps I guess!
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